I fully believe that a twentysomething young professional is a combination of career, finance and self-reliance. That can be a lot of pressure for a new graduate. These pressures both stem from and create unrealistic expectations which in return can cause a negative self image when expectations are not met. To fight this negativity we need to change our mind set.
The mind has this funny way of working where it will easily remember the bad, but it may take more effort to remember the good. I don’t know if its our society and media that makes it this way or if its just a normal weakness of being human, but the bad experiences do leave a long lasting mark on our minds. In order to change our mind set we need to train our brain to recognize and appreciate the good more often.
Here are 2 ways you can actively start changing your mind set.
Writings down experiences in a journal, notebook or virtual diary is very therapeutic. Journaling allows you to slow down and reflect. When you slow down you’re able to put things in perspective. You’ll see that there are plenty more good moments and achievements you’ve made through your day. Also, because you wrote these moments down you’ll be able to go back at any time when you’re doubting yourself for some encouragement.
2. Happiness Jar
Find an old empty jar, whatever size you want. Whenever you have a moment that makes you proud or smile, write it down and stick it in the jar. When your jar is full you can open it up to remember all the moments that made you happy during that time. Recognizing instances to write down will help your brain to notice positive moments more frequently.
These are two active ways I’m going to start training my mind set. I would love to hear about your experience with these techniques.
How do you keep a positive perspective?